Feeling like we are “in-the-know” is incredibly addictive. When we feel like we are “in-the-know” it props up some aspect of our self-concept. It makes us feel smarter than other people. Smugly self-assured. I think there are narcissistic elements, elitist tendencies, but also elements tied to survival, an evolutionary adaptation. There’s something about believing thatContinue reading “In-the-know”
Manipulation Tactics1. Installation and maintenance of fear2. Deception and lies3. Guilt4. Punishment5. Cruelty6. Abandonment7. Create dependency8. Limit scope of freedom9. Threats10. Physical control11. Physical abuse12. Psychological/emotional abuse The above list is not exhaustive, nor does it account for the many nuances that are elements of the listed items.
When we learn to stop blaming others, when we halt what has become a compulsion to disagree, to correct, to counter every word we hear or read, we realize that the problem may not lie with others, but only within ourselves.
You are your own benchmark. Don’t bother comparing yourself to others. There is always someone out there doing “better” and “worse”. Neither person changes your true state. The only true measure you can take is that of yourself. Even then our tools are limited. Divest yourself of self-judgement.Observe. Seek only to understand and accept theContinue reading “Only You”
Cruelty and contempt are never acts of strength, they are acts of cowardice.
What you put into your mind and body are the most important choices you make every day.