Author: Barry Brewer
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Habit Disruption Method: +2 -1
We all struggle with “bad” habits, where they come from and our vulnerability to them is for another piece, right now I am going to give you a preliminary tool to help disrupt and manage those bad habits that have such deep hooks. These habits may range from smoking cigarettes, eating too much dessert, watching…
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In-the-know
Feeling like we are “in-the-know” is incredibly addictive. When we feel like we are “in-the-know” it props up some aspect of our self-concept. It makes us feel smarter than other people. Smugly self-assured. I think there are narcissistic elements, elitist tendencies, but also elements tied to survival, an evolutionary adaptation. There’s something about believing that…
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Manipulation Tactics
Manipulation Tactics1. Installation and maintenance of fear2. Deception and lies3. Guilt4. Punishment5. Cruelty6. Abandonment7. Create dependency8. Limit scope of freedom9. Threats10. Physical control11. Physical abuse12. Psychological/emotional abuse The above list is not exhaustive, nor does it account for the many nuances that are elements of the listed items.
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Within Ourselves
When we learn to stop blaming others, when we halt what has become a compulsion to disagree, to correct, to counter every word we hear or read, we realize that the problem may not lie with others, but only within ourselves.
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On Strength
When you look back on your actions you will see that you were your least understanding, most cruel, most vicious not when you were strongest but when you were the most desperate, the most tired, the most lost, possessed the least sense of meaning and purpose. This does not excuse the choices that were made,…
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On Strength
When you look back on your actions you will see that you were your least understanding, most cruel, most vicious not when you were strongest but when you were the most desperate, the most tired, the most lost, possessed the least sense of meaning and purpose. This does not excuse the choices that were made,…
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Only You
You are your own benchmark. Don’t bother comparing yourself to others. There is always someone out there doing “better” and “worse”. Neither person changes your true state. The only true measure you can take is that of yourself. Even then our tools are limited. Divest yourself of self-judgement.Observe. Seek only to understand and accept the…
Barry Brewer 